I learned to read underneath people's words because I had to.
I come from threshold-walkers; immigrants, survivors, people who've had to read between languages and cultures to survive. Great-grandparents fleeing pogroms. My mother leaving Brazil at 19 to NYC, not speaking a word of English. Then moving me to Geneva at 6, where I learned French by 7 and lost my American accent in my native English.
I grew up inside Gurdjieff's 4th Way communities. My parents' world, not a choice I made, which meant I was trained in self-observation and the practice of seeing unconscious patterns before I had language for any of it.
Community was my first real classroom. From age seven into my early twenties, I lived it. Sleepaway camps in Switzerland where we cooked together, traveled internationally, managed conflict in close quarters, and formed genuine bonds with strangers inside of a first day. I was a kid in those groups, then a counselor, then the person running the pre-trip prep sessions for other counselors. I learned early what a first day requires. I also learned what breaks a group and what builds one, in practice.
I stepped away from that world for a long time. I spent my mid-twenties and early thirties moving between countries, dropping out of college, building a life in Atlanta, becoming a partner and then a mother. Short returns—a training here, an ashram visit there—but nothing sustained. The pandemimc shut the world down and my communal work went quiet.
Coming back to it now, in this practice, feels like the thing I was always going to do with everything I already knew.
I've spent years learning the difference between relationships that can transform and relationships that are complete. I know when to stay and when to go. I know the difference between CAN'T YET and WON'T EVER. I learned this through lived experience—years of trying to repair what couldn't be repaired, and years of doing the work that actually could shift, leading me to a happy and healthy marriage, and a live that feels like the growing embodiment of my joy.
My background includes hypnosis, NLP, mediation, timeline work, and Zegg Forum facilitation. There's also a fourth-dimensional aspect to how I read people and rooms that I won't over-explain here. Just know it's present in the work, whether I name it or not.
What matters more than any of these tools is this: I learned to read underneath because I had to. And I've done the relational work on myself that I now hold for others.
