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A 3-week 1:1 workshop for the woman going through overwhelming change
Life with an uppercase ‘L’ is well and truly happening to you, somewhere outside the realm of your control.
Life with an uppercase ‘L’ is well and truly happening to you, somewhere outside the realm of your control.
You know you’re overwhelmed. You have all the language to describe ‘why’ you’re inside of this reality.
“My spouse left me and I have not recovered from the sudden and unplanned change in reality.”
“My loved one is in the hospital/on their death bed/recently passed, and I don’t know which way is up anymore.”
“I keep crashing out when I used to handle more stress than this. I’m not sure what’s going on (but I know I need help).”
“I’ve healed from old wounds, but the massive life shift I’ve just gone through has me questioning everything I thought I knew.”
“I’ve survived so much and I’m not sure how I’m going to survive this round…but I still want to.”
“I need to keep going because if I stop, I’m not sure what will happen to me.”
“I have so many responsibilities at work, at home, in my relationship, to my family, and to everyone else, and I think I’m about to crash out/I have crashed out.”
Right now, you’re inside a phase of juggling ‘too much’ while feeling like you’re falling short. Your mental load is past capacity, but the demands keep on coming.
Right now, you’re inside a phase of juggling ‘too much’ while feeling like you’re falling short. Your mental load is past capacity, but the demands keep on coming.
Crossroads is for the woman whose mental load is past capacity, and control is slipping.
Crossroads is for the woman whose mental load is past capacity, and control is slipping.
On paper, life is supposed to be good. She’s hit all the milestones she thought she wanted, and now she’s looking back on a path she’s not sure she still wants. What lies ahead is a big chasm of uncertainty and the Unknown, and she’s wondering what to do about it, now. There's so much going on...
1- Every day she’s pulled in 10 different directions.
She feels like Life is hitting her too hard, in too many ways. It’s all too much. And she doesn’t feel like she’s doing enough, or like she’s allowed/able to do more.
2- She juggles 93 different layers of thought and responsibility at any given time.
She holds onto a lot of responsibility. Overwhelmed and overstimulated, can’t focus and can barely touch the resources she’s used in past cycles of survival.
3- She’s been on her healing and personal development journey.
She’s done the work, and she’s even been able to focus on other things than just survival.
She knows her backstory and understands how she’s designed her life around the wounds of the past. She’s in a freeze state, coping with substances, doomscrooling, and sidestepping the problems she can actively avoid.
But how are you supposed to find your way back to Self when you’ve already reached capacity?
But how are you supposed to find your way back to Self when you’ve already reached capacity?
That is what Crossroads explores with you.
That is what Crossroads explores with you.
She’s sure she knows what the problem is, and she’s not entirely wrong. But knowing and transmuting are two different practices.
She’s sure she knows what the problem is, and she’s not entirely wrong. But knowing and transmuting are two different practices.
You think the problem is your reality. You’re right, for the first layer or five.
But the deeper truth is how it’s really about the function that has defined your identity.
The top layers are about being a caretaker pulled in every direction. The lower layers are how you’ve built an entire Self around that role.
Care for the kids.
Care for the elders.
Care for the job.
Care for the house.
Care for the community.
Care for other people’s suffering.
Care for the mental load that no one else seems to care enough about.
You’ve poured so much into caring for others, you’ve removed yourself from the list of priorities.
But now, you’ve run out of gas, the tank is empty, and the way you’ve related to your reality is officially unsustainable.
It's not about criticizing or even changing the build-up that led to your current overwhelm. You're feeling exactly the way you're feeling. You've been able to get yourself this far by sheer force of will, and that is truly something to behold and appreciate.
But now, it's about shifting perspective. It's about repatterning the entire paradigm of your current reality in such a way, you handle it better, more confidently, and with greater ease.
Where all that caring doesn’t get erased, but gets transmuted into something that fits You better and more completely than how reality currently operates.
Most offers focus on the problem you think you have. The too-muchness, the dysregulated nervous system, how to make your next $50k.
Most offers focus on the problem you think you have. The too-muchness, the dysregulated nervous system, how to make your next $50k.
Crossroads is meant to be a practical experiment with real-life outcomes.
Crossroads is meant to be a practical experiment with real-life outcomes.
But when reality comes knocking,
When your money has dried up,
When your partner’s taken the kids
When you get laid off—
How do you redefine your sense of Self all over again?
If you freeze, how long can you protect your reality without moving?
If you’re correcting by doing even more, how long can you avoid dealing with the problems hiding beneath the surface?
Your hard work is being confronted with impending reality, and coming up short on the ‘helpful’ front.
Your hard work is being confronted with impending reality, and coming up short on the ‘helpful’ front.
You’ve done the reading and the meditating. You’ve done psychedelics, spiritual devotion, and gone down philosophical rabbit holes.
Spirituality is known.
Self-awareness cultivated.
Exhaustion and the struggles of reality?
Still very current and kind of crashing around your ears, right now.
What’s worse, these problems are familiar. An age-old depression, or eating disorder. A memory of your wounded inner child, or how you’ve defined yourself by the suffering from your life’s circumstances.
You’re wondering, how do I change how I think? What more am I supposed to do?
Some things can’t be bypassed. But they can be supported, witnessed, and guided into an aligned path through a meticulous and multi-part journey.
The process of survival is through relationship, first.
The process of survival is through relationship, first.
I’ve witnessed many women suffer through the work alone while everything hard piles up even higher around her. So instead, spend three weeks with focused and purposeful accompaniment, where witnessing is paired with actionable support through the storm you’re in.
Crossroads wants to achieve three key things across the time we spend together:
Crossroads wants to achieve three key things across the time we spend together:
1- to witness you so well, you can pause the self-recrimination. The first goal is to orient yourself away from the named problem and redirect your focus on Self with grace.
2- to explore the role you’ve defined for yourself and replace it with a healthier, more aligned perspective. The second goal is to shift frozen self-judgement into actionable acknowledgement.
3- to repattern how you handle your reality and the relationships inside of your field. The third goal is to help you notice the real-time changes you can make with focus and supported intent, and anchor you through the implementation of a longer-term practice that can survive future (and inevitable) ups-and-downs.
We can’t change the divorcing spouse or the dying parent. But together we can redesign how you perceive your reality and survive it. How to empower yourself, survive, and even transcend this moment in time.
Coping isn’t the same as alignment.
Coping isn’t the same as alignment.
When you repattern the way you relate to yourself, you change what becomes possible.
When you repattern the way you relate to yourself, you change what becomes possible.
Crossroads is for you is you want to feel something tangible shift in your reality.
Crossroads is for you is you want to feel something tangible shift in your reality.
You will walk away choosing yourself more easily than before, without feeling like you’ve self-abandoned again.
You’ll be more tapped into your own agency, more able to discern what is right for you from what others may have decided was right for you.
You’ll feel empowered to make decisions without so much self-doubt and self-recrimination interfering.
It’ll feel easier than ever to advocate for your own needs, center yourself more than you’re used to, and cultivate space in your life for Self. Having honest and complicated conversations will be more accessible to you than ever before.
You’ll have redefined your Self into greater alignment. You’ll get to consciously decide what characterizes the role and responsibilities you carry day-in, and day-out, and the choice of it will bolster you through the tough days.
You’ll feel lighter and less tapped into the overwhelm. Whether the problem you brought in the beginning gets resolved or not, the way you feel about it, the way you handle it, the way you react to it—it will all have shifted into something more graceful, more aligned, and more productive than what it used to be.
You’ll have healthier relationships that feel good from the inside out. You’ll have greater ease at moving through the ups and downs that come with living an aligned Life.
You’ll feel more comfortable using time for cultivation and care of Self, in ways that fit inside of your life and that feel good to you, from the inside out. You’ll tap into your resources more easily, and you’ll anchor a felt sense of stability.
The goal: Survive, first, and then transcend the storm you’re in, now.
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